Define, Draw, Discover and Drive Resilience
How aptly Sigmund Frued said, "Out of your vulnerabilities will come your strength." We all are drawn to choppy and muddy waters in our life course but these moments give an insight as to how to emerge clear out of them. Stress is something which we all face at one point or the other in our lives. We all deal with it, at times coping up skills are facilitated by Psychologists who give a better understanding and handling of the situation. The event titled, "Resilience in times of Stress " on 22nd December evening at Cafe Turtle, G.K-I, New Delhi was an opportunity to know about stress management and developing the capacity to deal with it. It saw people arriving well in time and waiting eagerly for the evening discussion to begin. The chai aficionados were elated, as masala tea was served several rounds and it complimented the nachos and Salsa dip really well. The gracious, lovely lady Nimmi Hutnik, who is a Psychologist by training and did her studies from Oxford started with a presentation about Resilience. The event saw the book launch of her work titled, Becoming Resilient. The way she spoke was sure to trigger queries and questions, which were later addressed too. It's interesting to understand how complex are mental processes, our experience and behaviour.She narrated a beautiful story about how she drew inspiration for her book. She spoke about a tree in her friend's garden which had innumerable branches, a night when lightning struck it fell down. There was a void, a big hole in the ground for more than a year. It wasn't a good sight and a strange sadness engulfed. But gradually there was a tiny sprout and then a plant came out leaping upwards. After many years it blossomed into a flourishing tree. Nature is the best teacher and offers the best solution too. The tree had to face this necessary suffering and then bounced back to life. Several branches sprouted - a loud and proud proclamation of life. This is what Resilience is, the ability to undergo difficulties, come out of it, flourish and grow. Resilience is associated with words like flourishing, buoyancy, bounce back. To make it more understandable she dwelt extensively on her research on centennials. She spoke of people above 75 years, framing their different life events and their adaptability towards it. It was on the basis of Stoicism, positive language, pushing worry aside, adaptability, see and take opportunities, that they were able to do so.
The gathering had many experts on the subject of Psychology, so it was a team of experts raising the expectations of the audience for careful handling and solution on this extremely important issue. To the delight of attending audience it turned into an engaging and engrossing discussion. Nimmi spoke about the third eye which at points is similar to Lord Shiva's Trinetra , it's opened when supreme consciousness is struck. As per the mythology, The third eye symbolises spiritual knowledge and power, it's the eye of wisdom or knowledge. The opening of Trinetra burns all ignorance. In psychology third eye means ability to stand aside and see our own reactions to a situation and the activities that we undertake. We all feel trapped in tricky situations, problems plaguing workplace, innumerable obligations at home. The fast paced acceleration in life offers no rest. We are in action all the time and set unrealistic expectations for ourselves. We all know this but at times our handling skills crumble and we get into bouts of depression without even realizing. It's a vicious circle when depression sets in it leads to state of inactivity. You feel the pain and drag yourself for whatever you do. Then you tend to withdraw from society and family, this in turn adds to more depression. The treatment model for this is Bio-psycho-social-spiritual-relational model. The problem as well as the solution was discussed in detail. The discussion on the topic can stretch for hours and hours with unflinching attention from participants. But with hope and belief in sync with the Christmas festivities and New(Year) beginnings, there is a way out of every difficult situation. The words of William James offer great solution, "The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another." So let's choose vibrant thoughts and paint our lives with myriad hues.