What Women Truly Want : Note to Notice a Man or Have it All
The title What Women (Really) Want was truly intriguing and inspiring at the same time. The book launch of “When Love Finds You” at Costa Coffee, South Extension was very inviting. To say it was a wonderful medley of titles won’t be wrong. Many thoughts kept crossing my mind, how privileged and blessed are people who find love and the forfeit of hope never destroys them.
This event was organised by Women's Web, a platform which enables women to tell their own stories. The primary philosophy was not to glorify or demonise feminism but discuss ideas with humour and friendliness. The other event partners were Harper Collins, the leading Publishing house and Costa Coffee, the patron saint of coffee aficionados.The initial fiasco of change of location from South Extension Part I to Part II and wading through the gargantuan overbridge was worth the experience. On my arrival I saw that most of the seats were already occupied. The delicious aroma of coffee wafted in the air and the heady concoction of brownies, grilled sandwiches started working overtime on gastronomical pangs. The waiters were the noblest souls around doing the best job of satiating taste buds and then the most interesting, engaging, conversation started.
The evening saw bright, energetic panelists. One of them was Yashodhara Lal the author of the When Love Finds you and who has an interesting resume to speak of. She is Vice President at Genpact, a Zumba Instructor, and Corporate Social Responsibility & Diversity Leader. Panelist Vinita Nangia was a very graceful lady who is an Assistant Editor & Columnist at Times of India. The male representative on the panel was Sachin Bhatia, the founder of a dating App called Truly Madly. The tag line of Truly Madly is "Unsingle with TrulyMadly where dates are dates". Trulymadly are staunch believers that women truly want a fitness idea where a workout means- Boy browsing for at least 30 minutes a day, 7 days a week! There was no dearth of interesting thoughts popping with equal ferocity every now and then. It was a laugh riot all through the animated discussion that followed.Kasturi from Women's Web as the moderator set the tone by putting a question to the panellists, which saw a tearing hurry on the part of audience to be hijacked. However the prolific writer, speaker and leader Yashodhara was fully in charge of the evening befitted for the star of the evening. The question was “What changes do we see in women now and women then”? Each panellist spoke with equal brilliance and witty spark. It was agreed that lives of women of yesteryear was different from the women of today. The expectations are changing and so is the manner of expression of these expectations. A great awareness has heralded, beckoning a new beginning. The change of family structure too is instrumental in such changes. Sachin said that technology has empowered women aspirations. Mobility from smaller to bigger towns has funded and fuelled this change.
The other sensitive issue which plagues women is "Having it All" which actually is a myth. The intense self-pressure women put on themselves is their worst enemy. Women are changing, which has led to a kind of insecurity for men and hence women need to be sensitive towards men. It is an emerging trend that women are the controller of situations and men remain elusive to these changes. Women have effortlessly taken to technology and use it with full passion whereas men are somehow passive about it. Men are simply happy posting the much trusted old passport photograph to allure a prospective girlfriend, whereas girls devote much skill on scurrying the latest apps and filters.
There was an interesting pitching in by Meena Wilson, who is a Social Scientist & Executive Director at Genpact Centre for Women's Leadership. She said that there is a remarkable shift in thinking of older men and women. They too, despite greying hair, stooped shoulders and stiff back, keep looking for love interests within the closed confines of an old age home. To which Vinita very aptly replied that its the best way to utilize limited opportunities available there; otherwise the story would be older men chasing young women and elderly women after young men. The basic emotion which every woman identifies is to come out of the closet and be empowered. The term feminism is largely associated with Feminine Nazis so this word should be respectfully relegated to the annals of history. Though women have navigated through various changes, the basic desire which runs common between men and women is to be loved and have companionship.
Another interesting highlight of the evening was the response of the author's spouse for a query from the audience -What changes have come into lives of rural women who largely stay away from mainstream? The excitement and assertiveness was visible all around.
It was then time to unveil the cover of the book followed by a brief introduction. The story speaks of a corporate female boss with lot of hardness and harshness. The intelligence reigns all over and promises to be an interesting read. It’s largely the showcase of mindset of the vast urban majority.The excitement to grab the mic for open mic session descended soon. I must admit it has been one of the most interesting book launches I have ever been to, devoid of dull moments, liberal doses of humour and intelligent talks. It was indeed a privilege to conclude the evening still believing in something.